They're not the tallest.
They're not the "alpha male" of the group.
(A lot of the time, they might not even be male at all – I've met many women who are able to command respect like this.)
But then, on the other hand, some people seem to be invisible.
When you're one of these "invisible" folks, you know it.
Because when other people are speaking, they don't make eye contact with you. And when you go to open your mouth to speak, someone else buts in and speaks over you. (Nor do they acknowledge that you might have something worthwhile to contribute, and invite you to speak again when they're done.)
At the end of the meeting or event, whereas others might get a warm handshake, you'll receive a cool nod or a half-hearted wave.
Ever wondered why?
Why there's such a huge difference in how these people get treated by others compared to the way you get treated?
After all, nobody knows anyone.
It's not like office politics, where everyone knows who holds the power and influence. This is just a one-time gathering of strangers.
By the way...
Chances are, you may have experienced this during job interviews, especially when there's a panel of hiring managers and HR managers. There comes a certain point in the conversation when they start talking between themselves, and it feels like you've suddenly disappeared and become invisible.
Do you know what I mean?
If so, here's what you need to know:
First, it is NOT personal.
None of these people know you, they don't know what you have to offer, and they're not deliberately trying to give you the cold shoulder.
Second, it's just human nature.
When most people meet someone for the first time, they unconsciously "size them up". It's instinctive, involuntary, and unconscious.
They look at the information they have available to them and decide where they fit in the pecking order. It's as simple as that.
And when you walk into a meeting, or indeed a job interview, where you're a stranger, there's only one piece of information they have to go on.
Can you guess what it is?
Your body language.
Depending on which study you read, scientists found that between 35% and 70% of what you tell people is done through your body language.
Your body language tells people how you want them to treat you.
It communicates your "station" in life.
And if you learn how to project confident and powerful body language, in a way that is authentic, it radically alters how strangers perceive you.
People stop treating you like you're invisible. They stop interrupting you as much. They start listening to what you have to say. They start considering your ideas. They treat you as someone who is important, someone who counts.
This is how you get the respect you deserve.
Next week, I'm going to share with you some powerful insights you can use to take control of your body language – to change the unconscious signals your body gives to others around you – so that people perceive you differently.
I'll even teach some techniques you can try.
Body language is an important part of the puzzle. I'm going to help you crack this, so you can dramatically increase your chances of landing your dream job, getting promoted, or taking your career to the next level.
Feel like You Don't Get the Respect You DeserveWritten by Alan Carniol
We've all been in situations like this:
You're in a meeting, or you're at a workshop/seminar, and nobody yet knows anyone. You're all strangers. Yet, there are certain people who, somehow, are able to command attention and get respected right away.
They're not the loudest.
They're not the tallest.
Alan is the creator of Interview Success Formula, a training program that has helped more than 40,000 job seekers to ace their interviews and land the jobs they deserve. Interviewers love asking curveball questions to weed out job seekers. But the truth is, most of these questions are asking about a few key areas. Learn more about how to outsmart tough interviewers by watching this video.